Today's article in the daily Metro newspaper mentioned that people that develop cervical or testicular cancer may face another harsh reality: "They are more likely to get divorced than those without the disease".
- Men and women with cancer are more likely to divorce than those without it.
- Older couples are less likely to divorce since they might be more committed.
- Those who get get cervical or teristical cancer at an older age are less likely to divorce.
I couldn't believe my eyes when I read the article. God forbid if one person faces a problem or a terrible sickness like the one mentioned from the European Cancer Society, otherwise we would be doomed for life, because our chances of getting divorce are higher.
What's happening in today's society? What happened to the core values that molded each one of us? What happened to the promises that people give to one another? I guess the vows for better or for worse don't mean anything because when life crisis or health problems arise their solution is divorce:( I have never been pro divorce unless in extreme situations. Sometimes, things don't work out between two people and its better for them to go their separate ways. But, reading this saddens me even more. The chances to get a divorce are higher if one of the partners is diagnosed with cancer. Instead of, being close to each other, going through such a unpleasant experience, showing more affection and telling your loved one that no matter what happens we will see it through together, one of the partners, decides to walk away and leaving the other one in the field of battle all alone. Wow! Do such people really exist? Can they really plug the life out of the person that once upon a time declared their unconditonal love until death separated them? Apparantly not! Their egos is much higher than the welfare of their beloved wife/husband, all they can think of is "me, poor me, what's happened to me". How pathetic?!
I guess the real promises and vows that people make now days do not count. So, dear friends be careful of who you choose to share the rest of your life with? It might happen that the one person you would have given your life for would not do the same thing for you:(
Saturday, September 29, 2007
'Til death???
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a thua se e kane ata fajin qe jane ashtu.po e ndertojne perhere e me shume boten per me te fortet dhe me te bukurit me duket:(
"Until death" has no sense anymore. Now it is "until you got a problem and annoy my person", because "...darling, I'm sorry, but I really need to live, even if I promised you to be there, in every case, I really didn't think this was going to be the case, and please don't break my heart with tears or something like that, because loosing you it's already very hard for me..." etc... etc...
Të djelë të vizllueshme, ma belle!
Eni, kjo bote s'qenka per ne:(
Aklli, very true. Like i said, such cruelsome people are looking for a way out because they are the ones that needed the most, i can hear them cry poor me what's happening??? i can't stand crappy people like that.
One of my aunts had breast cancer. I watched her husband be there for her every minute of the ordeal till she passed away. I love him for that and although he has remarried I have a great fondness for this man.
Those two have been my ideal couple since I was a kid; and watching him take care of her has made me more sure of the fact that I will not marry someone whom I don't think will be there for me when I need him the most.
Tea, thanks for sharing! The kind of men that you talk about I wonder if they still do exist? I respect and appreciate man and women that dedicate to the person they love until the last moments, that's true love for me!
If you have the misfortune to be married to someone that selfish, I would say better off divorced.
The study does say that testicular/cervical cancer affects fertility and intimacy, and these are probably more important to a younger couple than older ones. So commitment might not be the only reason older couples stay together, just practicality.
It is still very sad. It is easy to love somebody when they're perfect and in good health, it's only during tough times this is put to the test.
they do exist, as we do!
Lily, i agree with you! I'm not in the married but when i do take that decision I better know the other person thoroughly, because I don't plan to waste my time with someone that is not reliable.
Aklli, AMEN:))
Normalisht duhet te ndodhte e kunderta...
Hajt e merre vesh kete dreq bote
oh dear,
you might want to stay away from the free "metro" paper, that uncompromisable beacon of information... :D -- They will print anything to fill up their pages...
Try reading "The Times" for some more qualified studies!
Plus these studies are so superficial and leave out so much detail. Even if this is true, that could be a relationship between cancer and divorces, and not necessarily the causation! If you read "Freakonomics" by Stephen Levitt you will never look at statistical studies the same.
Cheers,
Its, that's beside the point my friend. I care less if the study was published in the Metro daily news. The point is, that people are too much of egoistic to care for someone that is suffering and needs a helping hand in bad days.
Belle,
smtimes is very difficult to know. There are men that even though they get old with you, they think it is only you that get old, and observe every little change that makes you older. They will probably exchange you for a younger, fresher one. There are couples that just got stuck to each-other, for those4 people difficult situations in life lead to separation. There are people who make you believe that they love you, but all they think is themselves, what can they take from you, how you can serve them, what you can do for them. At a certain point in your life you wish to go away from these people. But there are also other ones: who love you for what you are, who want to get old with you and are there every difficult moment of your life. They exist, they do! Just do not give the hope up.
Selfi, you're absolutely right! It's not that i have given up the hope that there's people that care and love no matter what, whether i'm wrinkled, fat, old and so many many things. It's just the frustration that i feel when i encounter such creatures and behaviors. That's life!
psst. shko tek blogu im per pergjigjen.
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